Anger becomes a problem when it harms you or the people around you. This
can depend on whether you express your anger, and how you express it. Being
angry isn’t a problem. It’s how you deal with it.
When you don’t express your anger, or express it at inappropriate times
or in unsafe ways, this is when it can damage your health and your
relationships. This is especially so, if something has made you angry in the
past and you didn’t express your anger at the time – because you felt you
couldn’t or didn’t want to – then that anger can get ‘bottled up’ or
‘suppressed’. This can have negative consequences in the longer term.
Counselling will help you explore the causes of your anger in a safe
place. This will help you work through your feelings and monitor and improve
your responses to situations that make you angry. Counselling will help you
look at current problems, and past experiences.
My anger is so out of control, I’m ashamed to say that I’ve hit a
few people, but my anger is mainly directed at objects (which) I’ve broken
in a fit of rage. I hate it, because when I’m in an angry moment it feels
like I’m not in control, and that’s a scary thing, because I never know what
I’ll do next”